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Weekly Mindfulness Support – (Not So Easy) Simple Math

Welcome to this glorious Friday, October 18, 2019. This is a rare and precious day that will never come again! How are you choosing to live it?

I spent a significant portion of my life seeking more happiness. After all, isn’t that what life’s all about? The pursuit of happiness? I was never quite happy enough. Of course, there were times when everything aligned and it seemed like I won the happiness grand prize, but quickly it was gone.

Regardless of how many times I pursued and found happiness through some joyful experience, I soon became unhappy - again. Trying to re-create the conditions was futile. It was never quite the same.

If you’re like me, despite having your needs met, you’re probably not as happy, peaceful nor content as you’d like to be. You might be thinking that you need more of something to make you happy. There comes a time when it might be helpful to consider that if we keep needing more of something to increase our happiness, maybe it doesn’t work.

If I look at my discontent, I find that it’s within me. We have a saying in recovery: “when I am disturbed, there is something wrong with me.” Forget that! I’m discontent because of A, B and C. My tendency was, and to a lesser extent still is, to try arranging the conditions around me trusting that they were the source of my discontent. How many times and how much energy have I spent trying to arrange people, places and things only to find fleeting peace and happiness? Ugh! The discontent is mine.

For me, finding enduring happiness, peace and contentment has taken quite some time to cultivate and isn’t fully rooted. There are times when I still think there is something missing. But it’s times like these, however, when subtraction has proven to work far better than addition.