More on Meditation
There are many different types of Meditation
Just because we know it’s better to respond than to react does not mean we have the capacity to do so. This is like present-moment awareness. Just because we want to be present in our lives, doesn’t mean we can. Our mind compulsively drags us away from the present. If we hope to live in the now, we must train our mind to stay present. Fortunately, the tool that fosters our ability to be present is the very same tool that expands the gap between stimulus and response. That tool – meditation!
Remember that we are groovy people. We tend towards impulsive and habituated reactions with little or no consideration of our values. Let me provide an example. I am passionate about human rights and if I perceive that someone is challenging me, if I’m not mindful, my hackles raise and I aggressively react! This destructive learned response is deeply engrained and just because I know it’s unskillful and unkind, does not suggest that it won’t happen. We are groovy people!
The antidote to this unskillful reactive behavior is meditation. It doesn’t work overnight, but when diligently practiced (I suggest every day), our volatile kneejerk reactions transform into thoughtful, kind and compassionate responses which are in alignment with our most cherished values.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Shamatha (mindfulness of breath) meditation works because it not only fosters present moment awareness, but also it teaches us how to relax. Think about it. How relaxed are you in knee-jerk situations? I’m guessing if you’re like me, not at all. Typically, when we are impassioned and emotionally triggered we are not relaxed. If we don’t recognize that we are triggered, we are much more likely to recklessly react rather than skillfully respond. As we practice relaxing in meditation, we develop a body consciousness. Over time, we learn to quickly recognize when we are not relaxed and furthermore can define with assurance the emotion we are experiencing. When challenging conditions arise, our awareness says, “hey, I’m experiencing anger and I feel threatened. I better take a few breaths and relax before I respond.”
The practice of Shamatha helps us to develop this body consciousness. As we become more relaxed and as we follow the instructions of returning to the sensations of breath each time we notice that we’ve wandered off into thought, it trains our mind to be watchful for when we are not paying attention to our body – not present. As I frequently mention while guiding meditations, “our body does not exist in the past nor does it exist in the future, our body only exists in the present moment.” Our body is therefore a reliable anchor to the present. This combined present moment awareness and body consciousness expands the gap between stimulus and response. And, in this spacious awareness “is our power to choose our response.”
The caveat: if we hope to make value-based decisions in that space between stimulus and response, we better know what our values are. Because, “in our response lies our growth and our freedom.”