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Weekly Mindfulness Support – I’m Fine

Welcome to this glorious Friday, October 25, 2019. This is a rare and precious day that will never come again! How are you today?


I’m Fine!


How many times have I responded to the question, “how are you?” with, “I’m Fine,” when in all honesty, I was anything but fine?


I feel like there are many layers to this. Speaking from my experience, I answer with, “I’m fine” out of habit; I don’t want others to think I’m suffering or not in control of my life; and, well, I just don’t want to be “that guy” who is always complaining about his problems.


In doing this mindfulness practice, I’ve discovered so many ways that I act out of habit and don’t even realize it. When somebody asks how I’m doing, the programmed response is, well, you already know, “I’m Fine!” or some other version of that.


Thinking about this from the asking side, when we approach a friend, coworker or whoever, out of habit we tend to utter as a cordial hello, “how are you doing?” I’m guessing that many of us secretly hope that that they’ll respond with, “I’m Fine.” Otherwise, we fear that we may lose half our day listening to their problems. I’m fine, though usually not honest nor accurate, is clean, quick and easy, and, sometimes appreciated.


It’s as if we answer in a way that reflects our picture album or Facebook life. All smiles, bells and whistles and cash and prizes. Sure, meow and then someone will post or share their “drama.” We offer our condole