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Weekly Mindfulness Support - Enough is Enough

Hello and welcome to this glorious Friday, March 6, 2020! This is a rare and precious day that will never come again.


I was recently reminded (again) that I am enough – exactly as I am.


At the end of a 1996 movie, there is a trendy and iconic scene where Jerry Maguire (played by Tom Cruise) unapologetically confirms his love (attachment as I see it 😉) by saying to his estranged wife, Dorothy Boyd (played by Renee Zellweger), “You complete me!” After a long, drawn out, Hollywood display of devotion by Cruise, Zellweger says in reply, “You had me at hello.” The teary-eyed couple embrace – I assume they live happily ever after. When I first watched this movie, and in all honesty sometimes still, needing to be completed by someone or something else seemed completely legitimate.


There is a paradox here: We are inseparable from and dependent upon everyone and everything around us for our survival and well-being. Nevertheless, we are absolutely responsible for our own peace, contentment and genuine happiness – enoughness.


Imagine that as you enter a grocery store to pick up something specific up for dinner, you feel calm and essentially at peace with your task. Your list is short, just three items. Maybe you walk by an endcap displaying sprinkle-covered cupcakes. Suddenly, you find yourself with the belief that you couldn’t possibly imagine an evening without this confectionery delight despite the fact that you didn’t even know it existed less than a minute ago.


Perhaps you’ve had the experience of driving down the road completely content. Maybe you’re singing along with a song that has been on repeat for the umpteenth time. In time, you come upon a traffic jam (remember - you are traffic) and suddenly you are in distress. Your peace and happiness goes as silent as the music that you can no longer hear over the screams of your discontent towards the intolerable situation. One minute all is well, the nex