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Weekly Mindfulness Support Blog - A Dear Friend

Hello and welcome to Friday, October 1, 2021. Today is a rare and precious day that will never come again.

We can be so mean to ourselves, so unkind, so abusive. We often compare ourselves to others who, on the outside, appear to be organized and have their act together. We look at ourselves and see a hot mess. We are overly critical of and set unreasonable expectations for ourselves. Our daily to-do lists don’t include time for fifteen-minute breaks, food preparation, eating, exercise, and showering. When we’re exhausted and fall into bed, we forget all we’ve done and shame ourselves for what’s left to do. Seldom can we recognize the benefit of we bring to the world – it’s often overshadowed by our mistakes and by the things we should be doing.

The fact is, we get to spend our whole life with one person. What if we were to treat that person as a dear friend?

If we knew our best friend was struggling, we would first console them and likely say something to effect of, “You’re awfully hard on yourself. Take it easy. Slow down. You’re a wonderful person and bring so much to the world. You’re my best friend and I care about you. I don’t want to see you hurting.” Would we say this to ourselves?