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I'm Your Best Friend

Welcome to this glorious Friday, October 16, 2020! Today is a rare and precious day that will never come again. I hope we can engage with each moment in a way that is meaningful.

I’ve been thinking about best friends and how important they are in my life. I feel grateful and comforted by the fact that I have a best friend who is there for me when times get rough; someone who is reliable, trustworthy, kind and compassionate. My best friend doesn’t judge me. She is empathetic when I struggle, supportive when I feel insecure and afraid, and calls me out on my BS when appropriate. My best friend helps to hold me accountable and is honest and dependable. If she says she is going to do something, I know in my heart that she’ll make every effort to do so. My best friend is also human; she sometimes makes mistakes. Nevertheless, she does the best she can. And because she is important to me, and I know that it’s OK to be an imperfect human, I’m able to forgive her – because that’s what best friends do.

Not that I want to get rid of the one I already have, but imagine if we could also be our own best friend. Imagine the potential if we were to look in the mirror and say, “I am your best friend and I won’t let you down.”

I was in a conversation recently with one who I regard as a wonderful teacher and dear friend. He shared with me that Mindfulness is about learning how to trust ourselves. I’d never really thought about Mindfulness in this way. When I considered for how long I’ve struggled with insecurity, low self-confidence and self-worth, I was struck by this idea of being trustworthy towards myself.

Each of us likely knows someone who is always saying that they are going to do this or that and seldom do they ever accomplish what they commit to. It’s difficult to trust a person like this. If we continually say that we are going to do something and never implement it, how can we possibly trust ourselves? We trust those who have integrity, who do what they say they will.

How many times do we fail ourselves? Actually, not as many as our mind tells us. In fact, we do many wonderful things for ourselves each and every day that typically go unnoticed. We get up, make our beds, brush our teeth, nourish our bodies with food, bathe, go mindfully to work, and help others. Regardles